THE DISCUSSION YOU DIDN'T ASK FOR

Good day, ladies and gentlemen, you're welcome to another blog post by yours truly, the Artist that now runs a blog 😌.

I'm bringing today's gist straight from the street of Twitter. The matter people are settling, the issue people are dragging up and down as if they get paid to do so. The issue of RAPE 😯.

I know no one asked about my opinion but rather than support one party, why not take a sit, read this post and learn some lessons.

Let me brief you with few details incase you've not been to Twitter or you don't know about it. Two loves bird have been parading the timeline making people go, "awwwwn" anytime they see their cute couple's picture. They were the best at any couple's challenge. They did a lot of couple's goal stuff and boy, it made people go,"awwwwn"😍. 

Anyways, it ended in tears. They broke up, issues sprung up but an Artist like me didn't really care, probably too busy making people's relationship strong by making the best gift ever. Boy, I've saved a lot of relationships with my portrait ( you're welcome by the way ).

 So, they broke up but I didn't really get the gist then. I thought it was all over until I opened my Twitter and boom, I saw them trending again. I've spent two years on that app and I haven't trended once. So, word out on the street is that the ex girlfriend accused the boyfriend of raping while they were dating. I had time to spare, so I digged in. The accusation didn't start at once, it started little by little but instead of this niggah to defend himself,( if truly he didn't do it ) he just kept on typing LOL 🙂

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Do you see it as a joke?

Someone accused you of rape and you didn't refute on time.

According to Oxford Advance Learner's Dictionary (yes, I used it) it states that rape is the crime of forcing someone to have sex with you especially using violence.

According to Penal code of Nigeria ( Section 282 ), a man is said to have commit rape if he has sexual intercourse with someone under the following conditions

1. Against her will

2. Without her consent ( you put it in while she's sleeping, you are guilty )

3. When her consent is obtained by putting her in fear of death or of hurt ( you threaten her, she agrees, you are guilty )

If you sleep with a 14 year old even with her consent, you're guilty ( saw it on the internet ) 

 Now, punishments for rape in the Federal republic of Nigeria are deadly and you might even bag Life imprisonment 🙂.

It's not something to handle with levity. It's not something you can reply LOL to when they accuse you of 🙂.

In this guy's case, it wasn't violence. It was consent.

Now, consent is tricky. If shawty gives you consent and she decides to sleep and you went ahead, it's rape. She gave it to you before sleeping, she might have changed her mind during sleep but you didn't know. So, don't put it in while she is asleep.

Also, if she gives you consent and while in the middle of the thing, she decides she doesn't want to anymore, you have to stop. If you don't, you have successfully raped her. 

Rape doesn't have to be violent, if you violate the above, you've committed a crime.

I can go on and on but I don't want to bore you.

Back to the story.

So, the girl accused the guy of rape. Word got out and people are dragging this issue. To make matters worse, this guy apologized 🙂. He said he apologized for everything he has done to her. To him, that was an apology for the insults the lady has been receiving since they broke up. To others, it seems like you just accepted the accusations and apologized. He also dropped screenshot of their chats were the girl was explaining it to him and he was apologizing ( it's not rape but it looks like rape 😑 ). 

Now, if I'm to look at it from this guy's side. Your girlfriend whom you've been dating for months and having sex together came all the way from a Yoruba land to Warri . Again, pretty hot chick you've been banging since came to visit you on your birthday. You both logged in a hotel, she put on a condom for you and you both did it but she claims it was rape. Looks like bullshit to me. I don't even understand. 

So, people are dragging it up and down and dropping their opinions but not me. There should be a limit to how you interact in this kind of situation especially if you were not in attendance when it all went down. So, I just kept on spectating but I did learn some lessons I want to share with you all because you're special to me 😘.

1. Sex should be a pleasurable experience and if it's not, speak to your partner. Speak up and stop using facial expression to say it. Open your mouth and talk. Guys, if she talks, just leave her alone. It doesn't matter whether you're married, or you're about to or you're just dating. Relationship is not a free door to sex.

2. Consent can be withdrawn during sex. If she says stop, stop. Resist the urge to keep on going and just stop 🙂

3. If someone accuse you of rape and you're innocent, refute the claim, analyze the chats and don't go with the flow and say that you fell into a trap. Don't apologize for something you didn't do, you might be getting into stuffs. People are manipulative.

That's all I learnt, I guess 🤔

But here's the thing, I do hope the issue is not for clout because if so, there should be a law that punishes people for claiming that they were raped.

A lot of girls see it as a weapon in their arsenal and will use it to bring people down. It's not a good thing. Boys and girls, uncles and aunties, mom reading this beside me 😑, let's just be good.

Also, I do believe all this could have been prevented. How? 

By giving portrait. If the guy had patronized me and given her a portrait, she would have probably drop every beef she had. 

So, thanks for reading, leave a comment, send me money on June 3rd and patronize this Artist. I need money to retain the suace.

Bye 🚶🏾‍♂️